Painting by: Wak. Title: 'Power of Love' (it's a black thang.com)"Women don't know what they want!"
I know you've heard this a hundred times before, especially coming from men. So, how ironic it is that I'm finding out more and more that "Men don't know what they want either!" Can i get an Amen?! First they wanted us to be housewives and take care of home. But they got bored, cheated, and had other families on the side. Then they wanted "superfreaks", but felt like the freaks weren't good enough to meet the family or marry. After that they wanted "a lady in the streets, and a freak in the sheets"...in short they just wanted the best of both worlds. So once again we tried to be that for them 2, and what did it get us? Them being mad at us for the extra things that came along with the package. Now we're independent, self-sufficient, intelligent, well poised and sexually liberated! And what are they saying now? Thank you, you're just what I wanted?! NOOOO! Our new found identities are making many of them feel insecure and unneeded. Don't get me wrong, I'm not coming down on you guys. I just really want to know what you want or if you REALLY even know. Or is the problem that you want many things, or perhaps only parts of things? Whatever it is that you guys want, just know that you're in the same boat that we're in. So the next time you fix your lips to say that we don't know what we want, just keep yourself in mind and think that maybe we want the exact same thing that you do (whatever that is) lol.
Sincerely, Me
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ReplyDeleteI don't think it's not knowing what we want that's the problem - that's natural. It'd take all the fun out of life if we just had a blueprint that we could hold up on every first date. No, I think it's more a problem of not knowing what we want to BE.
ReplyDeleteTrue, women have been adapting to the ideals of men for years - although I think that's mainly because their self-improvement has been far more widely encouraged through the media (look at any womans' magazine and front cover always contains a variation on '15 ways to make yourself more attractive'). Whereas men haven't ever really had that helping hand/shove towards change, but are now throwing themselves into learning new behaviours and ways of living. Basically, no one's happy with what they are.
Sorry, I'm sure I had a point when I started typing that.
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Oh no, I understand what you're saying. I especially like what you wrote about not knowing "what we want to BE". Then I take it that you were saying that women have been able to change and mold ourselves especially due to each other helping with tips, but men haven't had quite the same oppurtunities for molding themselves into what women want....am i following correctly? :-)
ReplyDeleteI can see what you are saying, but I think we are all different, wow I could say what do women really want, the world has changed, we all know that, but trying to find a balance in some one can be hard enough, I think we try and find ourselves in someone else, I hope this make some sort of sense!
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